Sitting in my office staring down at the floor, they weren’t talking, and their marriage was in trouble. Ten months earlier, they had lost their only child in a tragic car accident. He was only twenty and had just received a scholarship to play football. He had worked hard as a walk-on, and they were so proud. He was respected by his peers, especially those who were a part of the same small group Bible study he helped to facilitate.
“It makes no sense.” The Father said. “Why would God allow this to happen?” She asked. Over the last ten months, they had grown increasingly distant. They no longer came to church, and the only reason they were sitting in my office was that the court had mandated counseling to see if reconciliation was possible. Both of them didn’t want to be there, and they didn’t want to stay together. They just wanted to move on and have the pain of loss go away!
The “enemy” had come to their doorstep, and they had opened the door. The battle had begun, and they were about to become a casualty of it. The fact is they had identified each as the enemy. They failed to recognize the real enemy. Instead of standing together in the strength and power of God’s might, they were attacking each other.
In Ephesians 6:12, Paul states that “Our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.”
The truth is, many marriages have become casualties of this evil enemy force! The first step to victory in your marriage, I told them, is to stand united against the real enemy. It’s hard to win when you misidentify the enemy! Your wife is not the enemy. Your husband is not the enemy.
There have been many casualties within the church because of friendly fire! Misidentifying the enemy can be a deadly mistake! God, help us!